I've had a constant war with myself throughout the years. There is one question that has eaten my heart like a volcano or a large fire that won't go out, despite all the questions I've asked myself. "Why does the human heart yearn to experience love?" and these are the responses from individuals around the world.
1. Enos Gnosis. (Employed and launching a Non-Related Business)
I believe what we all the heart of any person that wants to feel loved is an innate need. A different need than to stay alive with food and water, and not the same as needing a person to feel whole. A person can be whole without love.
My opinion is the need to feel loved is due to the fact as people, we want a sense of connection to other people who share our values, goals, quirks, differences on a continuum that leads from peripheral acquaintances to close friends. In a best friend relationship, one can feel loved in a way that is different from romantic love. There is still unconditional being present for each other and someone trusted to share your deep self where you would not with anyone else. There is a need for that kind of love with at least one person, or else a disconnect can happen and is felt as a void inside. It isn’t a void based on insecurity or neediness, but lack of interpersonal connection to share yourself platonically with at least one person.
Romantic love and I do believe in true love that begins with friendship and has that degree of closeness described before, then the two realize there is more to explore beyond that with each other. There is still a need to feel emotionally connected and bonded to one person who one can share all experiences include their self as in their physical self. This sharing when done not in a true love relationship only leaves us feeling disconnect and unwilling to trust someone who we already trusted with everything we have to give, and often we choose to settle for less than true love and base everything of the heart on ‘feelings.’
Feelings are not love. They are a byproduct of love. Love is intentional and action based, regardless of how you feel. The lack of having that one person to laugh, cry, even argue, be silly with and who when you're with no one else on the block your walking on matters and your heart feels safe because the actions of the other person gives you evidence it’s ok to feel safe and unguarded and open and that you reciprocate to the other and when that continues through open communication frequently and without secrets and willingness to admit when wrong and to forgive and definitely not hold grudges are evidences your heart has received and given the love it needed and will grow not through just the good times but especially the bad times.
The heart in my opinion will not be satisfied with money, material things, career, degrees, great places to visit and eat to fill that void. It will yearn to be loved and interconnected with that someone and will let you know it until it has what it knows it and ultimately that it is you-need.
Those couples married 50 years who you can tell on their faces they are very much in love is not about sex or money or any of that. It’s deeply personal and a bond connection they built, and they will tell you it wasn’t without good and bad times but to be where they are, where their hearts need to be loved was filled 50 years ago was worth it.
It won’t happen by a set of standards and criteria that a person won’t even follow for self or that are so shallow that the only thing the list will get in return is a like-minded shallow person, and it will fail. A list of standards is a good thing that are core value oriented and when a person is already living those values for self, not perfectly but always self examining to be a better person in those areas. And if that’s the case, that one will meet someone like-minded and not feel like it’s needed to give the body away after a few dates in order to be sure the other person knows they are liked and to show you like them. That is completely unnecessary and if the other person really wants what you have, it’s your inner self they want knowing all that physical stuff while nice or even great can wait and if done too soon can complicate emotions and erode what would otherwise have been a journey based on something each person continues to bring to the mental and communication and adventure table of sharing of those aspects of self that is what one would love. Truly love and then suddenly there is no feeling in the heart for love because you know you have it and didn’t have to compromise anything to get it.
That said, I had to fail in this and learn what my role in the failure was apart from what she did or didn’t do. Ultimately it doesn’t matter what she did or didn’t do only what I did or didn’t do and to take responsibility for it and learn from it to grow as a person so that I am prepared to do exactly what I wrote which is not close to how I did it before and that is why I failed on my side of the ledger. Her side matters in truth, but her side won’t make me a better person. Her side will give me information on what I truly wanted, didn’t want, believed was there but wasn’t, and to not see her as a failing person but as someone I can learn from even if horrible things were done, I can know what to avoid and to be patient about it. Because the heart won’t be able to love if it resents some ex from the past. It will not heal and will only bring into the next relationship the same problems that existed in the old one because self didn’t learn or focus on being a better self and forgiving where it must happen. Forgiveness is a must, or the heart will never give itself to anyone fully. It will always expect the next person to fail and even wait for it, so you can protect yourself from the very love you say you want and when whatever failure happens, you can say, ‘see, I knew that was going to happen’ and end it, but one was never really int it any way. I’ll know it for myself the person to give my own love to and don’t need to force to find it, which is a sign of neediness, not someone who is prepared for a love marriage based commitment.
But yes, it’s my belief the heart definitely wants to be loved. But it also needs to know how to live without expectations, unconditionally and with putting all things past in the past.
2. T Paul. (Former Inheritance and Family Trust at Personal Experience (2016–2020).
This is a question with as many answers as there are people. On a biological scale, feeling love is a chemical inside you that reacts when you feel something. Can that chemical be made without anyone or anything else? Not yet, as far as I know. Technically speaking, it's just a chemical.
On a deeper level, it's something we literally can't live without. At least not very happily. There have been studies on plants and water. Some plants and water were told how horrible they are and talked down to daily, while others were told they are awesome, beautiful and loved. The plants given negative feedback wilted and died, while the plants given positive feedback grew healthy and strong. The water when frozen produced cracked and fragmented ice crystals on a cellular level. The water frozen after being given positive feedback formed beautiful, perfect ice crystals when frozen and looked at under microscopes.
I believe in love and think that love can come from you and will return to you if you give love unconditionally. This can be animals, people, or however you experience love. It seems that people who have life partners or pets are happier and live longer.
3. Alma Erceg. (Retired)
You may think there isn’t anything THAT great about being loved. Just another emotion for you to live without, right? WRONG!
Being single, I also desire a partner who loves me. In times of sadness, I often wish I had someone who would encourage, comfort and support me. I am not actively looking for such a person, but I wish in my heart that I had a special someone to spend time with.
Being loved, is so amazing because it’s such a powerful feeling! It makes us feel, appreciative and needed.
The chances of you actually having zero love in your life is pretty slim because in one shape or form, you are loved.
In my opinion, longing for love is not a weakness. It teaches us to be wise. We are not meant to be alone and self-sufficient. Without lives filled with love, we wither inside. And in my opinion, intimacy is oxygen.
But remember life isn’t a fairy tale, be realistic when it comes to love!
So get out there, accept love and don't forget to give it, because love is a two-way street.
We were created in love and have the powerful energy in us. It is a connection to a higher purpose, and we use our thought process as well as our hearts emotions). We are to be love, so we can share love as well as feel loved. Human nature has the potential to reach higher levels of love, this is when we have the desire to feel love even more so and then go to the next level of love. “ Take time for love".
5. Avin Avinash. (Material and metaphysical Experience in Physics & Spirituality, Life University)
Because love reminds the one who resides in heart of its creator of home where everything is just love pure love nothing and the one is longing for that love from ages, so the one desires that unconditional love from everyone and everything.
In conclusion, true love is a feeling that comes from the heart and cannot be controlled.
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